I’ve done hundreds of ceremonies for couples from all over the world, ranging from the couple saying a few words at city hall to lavish affairs with hundreds of guests. Doing weddings is easily the most enjoyable job I’ve ever had. Being around happy people in love is a wonderful way to spend my days.
I am especially proud of the fact that I have been able to do a huge number of same sex weddings since CT began allowing them in 2008. It’s been an incredibly powerful thing to be able to be a direct part of something I deeply believe in and share these wonderful moments with so many great couples.
My guiding practice has always been that it’s all about the couple. I’m happy to be as involved or uninvolved in the planning process for your ceremony as you like; I’ve had couples hand me scripts and tell me “say this”, and couples that tell me “I dunno, say whatever”, with the majority of couples falling somewhere in between. Do you want a stoic, traditional event of formal pomp and circumstance? I’ll dust off the tux. Do you want a touching, funny recounting of how you fell in love despite smelly feet? I’ll get everyone laughing and crying together. Do you want me to do the whole ceremony in elvish? I’ll pull out the Tolkien dictionary! If you want, I’m happy to give advice and guide you through the process or you can tell me to jump and I’ll just ask “how high?” At the end of the day, the only thing I really care about is doing whatever you want, however you want it and doing my part in an event that you’ll remember fondly forever.