Vows can be as simple or as complicated as you like; there is no state law requiring any specific elements or phrases be a part of the process. I’m happy to provide vows for you, work with you to create custom vows or simply deliver a word for word ceremony you provide me with. The most important thing is to remember that this is your wedding, not mine, and I’m more than willing to do whatever it is you are looking for.

Here are the basic standard vows I typically use when a couple has no preference but still wants a short ceremony. They can also be easily customized or have elements incorporated into a larger ceremony.

Today we are here to celebrate the joy of this occasion, which should be one of the most memorable and happy days of your lives. On this day of your union, you stand somewhat apart from all other human beings. You stand within the charmed circle of your love; and this is as it should be. But love is not meant to be the possession of two people alone. Rather it would serve as a source of common energy, as a form in which you find the strength to live your lives with courage. Your cares, your worries, your pleasures and your joys you must now share with each other. From this day onward you will come closer together than ever before.

Marriage is a covenant of trust between two people requiring openness of life and thought, free from doubt and suspicion, and commitment to speak the truth in love to one another. Marriage, is also is a covenant of hope that endures all things, and in which you commit yourselves to interpret each other with understanding and compassion, to never give up trying to communicate with each other as you love and care for one another.

Today, each of you are stating to the world, that you are committing to the growth and well-being of your partner. That you are pledging your love and support for each other at all times. These are not things that can mandated by the state. These are not things that can be dictated by legal contract. These are not things that can be sanctified by the church… These are pledges you make in your hearts, with your hearts, to one another and no one else. Being assured that you are aware of the meaning of this ceremony, I will now ask you to repeat the vows.

Do you _________, take ____________, to be your spouse for life? Do you promise to love and comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, for better or for worse and be faithful to him/her as long as you both shall live? With this ring, I thee wed and forever pledge my devotion.

Do you _________, take ____________, to be your spouse for life? Do you promise to love and comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, for better or for worse and be faithful to him/her as long as you both shall live? With this ring, I thee wed and forever pledge my devotion.

You came to me as two individuals and you will now leave as a joined couple, united to each other in matrimony. But what is most important is the love that you share. A love that transcends language, law and ritual. You must remember to cherish this most wonderful of gifts for the rest of your lives. The best of good fortune to you both, you may now kiss.